“First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes baby in the baby carriage.”
It sounds so simple. But, that last part did not come easily for Nik and Holly.
Like most newlyweds, they had high hopes of starting their family, experiencing pregnancy together, and welcoming a little bundle of joy into their lives. However, they soon learned that life does not always play out exactly the way we see it. A year after they started trying to conceive, they eagerly moved forward with fertility treatments to try and grow their family. Unfortunately, after several rounds of treatment, they were still unable to conceive a child and growing their family through adoption became the hope they had been looking for.
And this is where our path's crossed. I "met" Holly, via social media, in a domestic adoption support group and began to answer some of her questions about adoption. I was happy to not only give her advice as an adoptive mom, but to be an encourager as they made their way towards becoming a client. We spoke many times over the course of a few months before they officially became clients in July of 2016. I was excited to begin working on their profile book, while they worked on completing their home study. In August of 2016, their profile book was completed and they were ready to start actively pursuing adoption situations. Over the next few months, Nik and Holly opened their hearts to so many expectant mothers and applied to many situations. Even though they heard "not this time" more than they would have liked, they continued praying and trusting that the Lord was working behind the scenes. Nine months after I started working with Nik and Holly, it was their time! They were matched with an expectant mom and they would welcome a beautiful little girl into their lives in August of 2017.
Holly shares their journey best in her own words:
The rollercoaster ride of infertility and treatments is real. There are so many ups and downs, twists and turns, excitement, optimism, and heartbreak—not to mention the physical and emotional toll it takes on you each and every cycle. It was because of all of this that when we were faced with the heartbreaking reality that pregnancy and biological children may not be in the plan for us without moving forward with IVF, that we really took a step back and were suddenly both hesitant to proceed. We both strongly felt that this was not the direction we were meant to go in anymore and could feel that adoption was present in our hearts now more than ever.
We had spoke of adoption from the very start of our journey to parenthood. After all, we both have family that were welcomed with open arms through adoption and we had seen firsthand the joy that this process can bring. So, we decided to educate ourselves on the adoption process and started to attend seminars at local adoption agencies--but not one of them seemed to be what we were expecting and we certainly did not walk away with high expectations of having a little one in our home anytime soon.
Feeling a little defeated, we took to the internet to research other ways to adopt. It was during this time, that we crossed paths with Katie and we learned of Christian Adoption Consultants. She was so kind and answered all of our questions long before we even committed to walking this journey with CAC. We truly appreciated her time and honesty and it became clear to us the more we spoke that adoption was truly how we were meant to be growing our family. Suddenly all of the heartache that we had experienced for so many years turned into excitement and we began the process of completing our home study. We joined CAC shortly after we were approved, and honestly do not know how we would have done any of this without Katie! She always answered all of our questions, talked us through situations, and reminded us through our frustrations that God would not let us miss our baby when all we heard was “no” time and time again.
And boy, was she right! I was not sure why at the time it took being told IVF was our only option to truly feel the call to adopt, but looking back now in hindsight it all makes perfect sense. All of those years of struggle and heartache were most definitely our blessing in disguise, leading us to the very moment that we would meet our precious little girl. And we wouldn't change a thing!
"God certainly had a bigger plan for us all along,
and His plan, in His timing was better than
anything we could have ever imagined! "
I was so honored to walk alongside Nik and Holly during this journey. Through the ups and downs of infertility, and through the waiting in the adoption process, they held onto hope. It wasn't always easy, but now they can see how God was working alongside them and bringing them to the place where they would meet their amazing daughter. Welcome home Mila...you are so very loved!
I would be honored to help guide you on your Adoption Journey of Hope! For more information on domestic or international adoption, please contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org
or visit Christian Adoption Consultants website to learn more!